The Problem, of Course, is People

-I've been musing about interpersonal conflicts. (I'll pick random names alphabetically here.)

-Say Anders has a problem with Brede. Might be a big problem, might be a little problem. The two of them (and anyone else involved, like Clady) haven't completely discussed it yet; no true resolution has been reached. Possible next steps for Anders include:

1. Anders and Brede talk about it some more.


2. Anders makes an LJ post about his negative feelings for the problem.


3. Anders makes an LJ post about his negative feelings for problems like this one. (I.e., it's not supposed to be specifically about the current situation.)


4. Anders makes an LJ post about his negative feelings for Brede.


5. Anders makes an LJ post about his negative feelings for people like Brede. (Again, treating it as abstract.)

-I think as adults we agree that 1 is good. And, I think we agree that 4 is very likely to cause hurt feelings and not resolve anything. So, now all we need to do is contemplate the other three options.

-So, picking from 2, 3, and 5, which is most likely to improve the situation for everyone?

-Edit: Note that Brede might well be on Anders' friends list.

(Oh, and the names are Danish, in case you were wondering.)